My Grandad

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Hibees-Mad

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Maybe I shouldn't post this, maybe it's in the wrong place and if so admins please do what you need to.

My grandad. A hibby for maybe 75 years. Covid hit a couple of years ago and him and my granny just made it out alive.

But he got sick. And sicker. He's currently in hospital, and I found out today how bad it really is. I live in the US so only knew what I was told, and I never knew how bad until I spoke with my sister. Apparently the last six or so weeks have been hellish. From what I can take from it, it's doubtful he'll see the weekend.

I'm absolutely heartbroken. And I'm so far away. Before I moved over here me, my dad and my grandad all went to the games together. Meet in the Hibs club then onto ER. We'd just have the best time. Laughing, joking wtc. Fuck, most of the time Hibs ruined a great get together! We went on the bounce tours, and finally we were there in May in 2016. He was a good hibby. He IS a good hibby. A great hibby.

I'm torn to pieces.

Again, admins, I don't mind what you do with this post - I just wanted to tell people about him whilst he's still on this earth.
 
Hibees-Mad said:
Maybe I shouldn't post this, maybe it's in the wrong place and if so admins please do what you need to.

My grandad. A hibby for maybe 75 years. Covid hit a couple of years ago and him and my granny just made it out alive.

But he got sick. And sicker. He's currently in hospital, and I found out today how bad it really is. I live in the US so only knew what I was told, and I never knew how bad until I spoke with my sister. Apparently the last six or so weeks have been hellish. From what I can take from it, it's doubtful he'll see the weekend.

I'm absolutely heartbroken. And I'm so far away. Before I moved over here me, my dad and my grandad all went to the games together. Meet in the Hibs club then onto ER. We'd just have the best time. Laughing, joking wtc. Fuck, most of the time Hibs ruined a great get together! We went on the bounce tours, and finally we were there in May in 2016. He was a good hibby. He IS a good hibby. A great hibby.

I'm torn to pieces.

Again, admins, I don't mind what you do with this post - I just wanted to tell people about him whilst he's still on this earth.
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Heartbreaking. Life can be such a bastard. Sorry for your pain.
 
Hibees-Mad said:
Maybe I shouldn't post this, maybe it's in the wrong place and if so admins please do what you need to.

My grandad. A hibby for maybe 75 years. Covid hit a couple of years ago and him and my granny just made it out alive.

But he got sick. And sicker. He's currently in hospital, and I found out today how bad it really is. I live in the US so only knew what I was told, and I never knew how bad until I spoke with my sister. Apparently the last six or so weeks have been hellish. From what I can take from it, it's doubtful he'll see the weekend.

I'm absolutely heartbroken. And I'm so far away. Before I moved over here me, my dad and my grandad all went to the games together. Meet in the Hibs club then onto ER. We'd just have the best time. Laughing, joking wtc. Fuck, most of the time Hibs ruined a great get together! We went on the bounce tours, and finally we were there in May in 2016. He was a good hibby. He IS a good hibby. A great hibby.

I'm torn to pieces.

Again, admins, I don't mind what you do with this post - I just wanted to tell people about him whilst he's still on this earth.
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We'll do nowt with it amigo. It'll be staying where it is, your feelings will relate and resonate with many of us on here and will almost certainly do so at some time in the future to everyone. He sounds like he's a right character, who has brought yer dad up the right way, as yours has done too.

Thanks for sharing that with us.

BIG G
 
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Sounds a top bloke, bringing his kids up the right way too. Hopefully he’ll pull through bud.
All the very best of luck to him.
 
Hibees-Mad said:
Maybe I shouldn't post this, maybe it's in the wrong place and if so admins please do what you need to.

My grandad. A hibby for maybe 75 years. Covid hit a couple of years ago and him and my granny just made it out alive.

But he got sick. And sicker. He's currently in hospital, and I found out today how bad it really is. I live in the US so only knew what I was told, and I never knew how bad until I spoke with my sister. Apparently the last six or so weeks have been hellish. From what I can take from it, it's doubtful he'll see the weekend.

I'm absolutely heartbroken. And I'm so far away. Before I moved over here me, my dad and my grandad all went to the games together. Meet in the Hibs club then onto ER. We'd just have the best time. Laughing, joking wtc. Fuck, most of the time Hibs ruined a great get together! We went on the bounce tours, and finally we were there in May in 2016. He was a good hibby. He IS a good hibby. A great hibby.

I'm torn to pieces.

Again, admins, I don't mind what you do with this post - I just wanted to tell people about him whilst he's still on this earth.
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I'm really sorry to hear about your grandad mate. Sending warm thoughts to you and your family. Thank you for sharing, I think you do the right thing in doing so. There are some very good people on the Bounce who are here to listen.

Take care

Stu
 
You and your family are in my thoughts. It might not be much but I've said a little prayer for your grandad. I've lost both my dad and grandad who are the reason I bleed green. It hurts like feck right now and I'm not gonna bullsh1t and say it gets easier with time but there really does come a time you'll remember the good times and smile 💚 please stay strong
 
Someone posted "can you get a flight back?" Before I had a chance to reply. Let me answer.

It's a very good question. And my wife and I talked about it, and decided against it. There was a couple of reasons.

As much as I love him, he can be a cantankerous auld duffer, and would be pissed at me for, in his words "wasting my money" saying I should've spent it on something worthwhile.

Say I got a flight, got home in time. Someone as ill has he is, I couldn't go into a hospital room after I've been in close contact with hundreds of different people. I would be too afraid I took something in with me.

My dad says it's not the grandad I know laying there. He's just a shell. I would regret it. My sister said the same. Said I don't want that being my last memory of him.

If I make it back and miss him, who knows when the funeral is going to be. It can take a couple of weeks. I can't afford to take that long off work. So if miss him and be forced to miss the funeral, so with that

Money. I hate that it's a factor but it is. I earn a fraction of what I did back home. Times are tight as it is.

So with a heavy heart, last night - after enough time had passed that my eyes were not red and puffy, I sent a small video to his phone, and to my parents to show him if at all possible. It was so weird and hard to say goodbye without saying goodbye.

That's when I posted the first message on here. It was a hard decision, but we feel we made the right one.

And, by the way, thank you all. I've been on here for a long long time. People who know me know what the bounce means to me. Your messages have meant so much to me. The bounce keeps me connected to home, and as i said, I've gotten a helluva lot of comfort from knowing I have people out of my personal circle so to speak that I can confide in and know I'll get support.

The hibees bounce is amazing. You're all amazing.

Thank you all.
 
I'm so sorry to read this. It's such a hard thing having to say goodbye to someone you loved. It was me who posted about a flight but I was on a train and worried it seemed insensitive as I was writing in haste. I've been in a similar situation and didn’t know what to do for the best. In many ways your dad and sister are right - better to have the happy memories of your grandad as he was - particularly if you can’t see him. Conversely there’s a lot to be said for being able to share your grief and hugs with family.

If you change you mind, I’ll happily try and help with the cost of a flight if I can.
 
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I'm so sorry to read this. It's such a hard thing having to say goodbye to someone you loved. It was me who posted about a flight but I was on a train and worried it seemed insensitive as I was writing in haste. I've been in a similar situation and didn’t know what to do for the best. In many ways your dad and sister are right - better to have the happy memories of your grandad as he was - particularly if you can’t see him. Conversely there’s a lot to be said for being able to share your grief and hugs with family.

If you change you mind, I’ll happily try and help with the cost of a flight if I can.
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Amazing gesture mate, thank you so much. We're in a good place (as much as we can be) with what we've decided as a family - but I'm extremely appreciative nonetheless.

I figured that's why the post was deleted - I wanted to reply to say that I didn't take it as insensitive at all. I knew where you were coming from.
 
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